Must it be a DIAMOND engagement ring? Diamonds are beautiful, but are they
still a girl's best friend?
Is it okay to choose an alternative
stone? What makes a good choice?
Check out these smart and affordable alternatives for your center stone!
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| Lab Grown Gemstones |
What stone to have in your engagement ring is a personal choice, and your decision should reflect your personal style and tastes. A diamond is a classic choice, undeniably gorgeous and steeped in tradition. But it may be that tradition is not your strongest inspiration. What reasons might tempt you away from the hardest rock under the sun?
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| Contemporary Infinity Engagement Ring with Synthetic Sapphire |
- Perhaps the first one should be,
uh, the elephant in the room? If you are feeling rich in love but a
little tight in the pocketbook, the cost of a natural diamond or
large sapphire could be daunting! These diamond alternatives listed below are affordable choices for engagement rings.
- It may be that you feel strongly
about supporting eco-friendly choices, and investing in a natural
diamond or sapphire that was mined from the earth goes against your grain.
- You just want to be different! The traditional diamond choice is not for you.
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| Three Stone Juicy Liqueur Engagement Ring with Emerald Cut Chatham Sapphire |
Great Alternatives
- My current favorite alternative is
Chatham Lab Grown Sapphires, Emeralds and Alexandrites. Chatham perfected the art of growing these precious gemstone crystals. In their words, they have "found the perfect
environment in which sapphire can grow naturally." A Chatham Sapphire is molecularly identical to sapphire. It has the same
physical properties of natural sapphire, and comes in a beautiful
array of sapphire colors including blue, pink, yellow, and Padparadscha (pinkish orange). They also provide a range of
saturations within each of those colors, from light to dark. In
addition, there is a nice selection of shapes and sizes! The
Chatham Lab Grown Sapphire satisfies all three reasons for choosing
different.
- My second favorite is Moissanite, also a lab grown gemstone. While the Chatham is a sapphire synthetic, Moissanite is a diamond simulant. It simulates the look of a diamond, for a fraction of the cost. Moissanite is not to be confused with CZ or Cubic Zirconia, discussed below. The refractive quality of Moissanite is similar to diamond, so you get that great rainbow sparkle. In addition, the hardness is great at 9.25, which makes it an excellent choice for everyday wear. The only drawback to Moissanite is that it has a faint greenish yellow color, but that is masked by the brilliance in the round and cushion cuts. The other fancy shapes enhance color, so the princess, pear, and marquise are not on my list of recommended stones. Once again, the Moissanite satisfies all three reasons for choosing a diamond alternative.
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| Modern Carved Curls Three Stone Engagement Ring with Moissanite and Lab Grown Alexandrites |
Think Twice
- Semi Precious Gemstones with a hardness under 8 will not be rated excellent for everyday wear. What this means, is that over the course of time, you will start to see an abraided (scratched) surface. While it might be very tempting to use an inexpensive garnet, or other gemstone for your engagement ring, be aware that it may carry the additional cost of re-cutting or replacement, and stone removal and resetting at a later date.
- Cubic Zirconia, or CZ. This is another diamond simulant, meaning, it is a stone that is made to look like diamond, but it is not synthetic diamond. CZ has a hardness of around 7, and it will definitely scratch over time.
- On-Line Diamond "Simulants." Without naming names, I will issue a word of warning when purchasing a "diamond simulant" from an on-line dealer. We at Krikawa have purchased and tested these stones, and while the companies may claim that the hardenss is like or similar to diamond, our testing shows us that these stones may only have a hardness of 7, like CZ. Our interest began when we polished a ring with one of these so-called stones, and the buffing wheel caused striations in the surface of the stone. Doh!
- Pearl and Opal. Even softer than Semi-Precious gemstones, pearl and opal are easily scratched and cracked. If you must have a pearl or opal engagement ring, keep in mind that the stone will most likely need to be replaced in the future.













Let’s design a
Now, how do we
How many of the engagement rings sold these days are mass manufactured overseas? A large percentage. Does the price of the ring seem too good to be true? There is a good chance it was manufactured abroad. In the US, there are some great design manufacturers. Tacori and Tiffany both manufacture low-volume produced designs through US labor. Stuller is a great facility in Louisiana that manufactures jewelry for jewelers. Some is produced mass and some is created “on demand,” one at a time.











